How much space in a relationship is necessary? The answer depends a lot on the type of relationship it is, and each person in it. Some people do better when they�re together constantly, and others crave more of their own space in a relationship.
It can be hard to find a happy medium that fits both people in a relationship, especially if each person's needs for "space" are different. Of course, it's very difficult if you each have very different ideas about what it means to be "together" or to have space. However, if you can compromise on the level of togetherness and independence each of you needs in a relationship, you can work through this together.
Some people don�t like to be alone. They�re much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their partner. When they�re alone and doing things on their own they feel a little lost and lonely.
Other people need their time alone, and in fact crave it. Without getting a little solitude every day, they may feel burdened and have a hard time simply taking it easy. They always have to be "up," or they always have to be "on" for other people when they're around them, which can be exhausting. That's why they need time alone.
Those are two extremes, but of course a lot of people also fall somewhere in between. They like spending time with their partners, and they also want some time completely alone to balance things out and recharge.
If both people in a relationship fall into this third category of "happy medium" between solitude and togetherness, then it's going to be pretty easy to define your space within the relationship. Similarly, if each of you falls into one of the two extreme groups, where each of you need lots of space or each of you likes being with other people a lot, then things are easier, too.
The problems come when one has a very different idea than the other .If you love your solitude and your partner hates being alone, you really need to talk and set some boundaries. Each needs to understand the other�s point of view so you can come up with a compromise that makes you both feel your needs are met.
For example, let's say you need some time alone each day for at least a little while and your partner wants company around the clock. It can be a problem if you simply walk off to be on your own without making sure your partner knows this, and if you don't, he or she may feel neglected or that you don't want to be around him or her.
Or, let's say the opposite is true. You hate to be alone and your partner needs his or her solitude. However, if you hang around all the time, your partner is probably going to feel smothered, and maybe even that you don't trust him or her. He or she may even feel that you're afraid of what happens when you're not around.
You can see that each of these situations could cause significant problems in a relationship. However, if you talk to each other with honesty and openness about how you feel, you should be able to have your solitude with your partners understanding.
Remember that if your partner "hangs around" even when you want some space, then your partner probably doesn't need the same kind of space you do in your relationship.
It can be hard to find a happy medium that fits both people in a relationship, especially if each person's needs for "space" are different. Of course, it's very difficult if you each have very different ideas about what it means to be "together" or to have space. However, if you can compromise on the level of togetherness and independence each of you needs in a relationship, you can work through this together.
Some people don�t like to be alone. They�re much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their partner. When they�re alone and doing things on their own they feel a little lost and lonely.
Other people need their time alone, and in fact crave it. Without getting a little solitude every day, they may feel burdened and have a hard time simply taking it easy. They always have to be "up," or they always have to be "on" for other people when they're around them, which can be exhausting. That's why they need time alone.
Those are two extremes, but of course a lot of people also fall somewhere in between. They like spending time with their partners, and they also want some time completely alone to balance things out and recharge.
If both people in a relationship fall into this third category of "happy medium" between solitude and togetherness, then it's going to be pretty easy to define your space within the relationship. Similarly, if each of you falls into one of the two extreme groups, where each of you need lots of space or each of you likes being with other people a lot, then things are easier, too.
The problems come when one has a very different idea than the other .If you love your solitude and your partner hates being alone, you really need to talk and set some boundaries. Each needs to understand the other�s point of view so you can come up with a compromise that makes you both feel your needs are met.
For example, let's say you need some time alone each day for at least a little while and your partner wants company around the clock. It can be a problem if you simply walk off to be on your own without making sure your partner knows this, and if you don't, he or she may feel neglected or that you don't want to be around him or her.
Or, let's say the opposite is true. You hate to be alone and your partner needs his or her solitude. However, if you hang around all the time, your partner is probably going to feel smothered, and maybe even that you don't trust him or her. He or she may even feel that you're afraid of what happens when you're not around.
You can see that each of these situations could cause significant problems in a relationship. However, if you talk to each other with honesty and openness about how you feel, you should be able to have your solitude with your partners understanding.
Remember that if your partner "hangs around" even when you want some space, then your partner probably doesn't need the same kind of space you do in your relationship.
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