We've all be rejected at one point or another in our lives. It's not fun, it's not easy, and we take it personally; very personally. After all, the person doing the rejecting is basically saying "no, I don't want you, now go away". And that's not something that does our egos too much good!
It's interesting to note that in a lot of cases it is the fear of failure that causes us to not try something, not the fear of actually being rejected. Just thinking about how we'll feel if we audition for that play or approach that beautiful woman at the bar is enough to scare us silly. So we stay put and don't even try.
Anything worthwhile takes effort. Be it asking that good looking guy or gal out, taking up a new sport, losing weight or quitting smoking. If you're frozen with fear then you're letting fear get in the way of achieving your potential. Simply put, you're scaring yourself into doing nothing.
You're a competent adult; capable of taking care of yourself. Right? So why are you letting your emotions and your fear of failure in particular rule your life? You need to get control of your emotions; you need a good old fashioned pep talk.
Examine your fears to see it if they're based on what others think of you or what you think of yourself. If you're allowing others' view of you to control your actions, or rather your inaction, you're setting yourself up for failure. If your imagine of yourself is immune to what others think of you, you'll be far less likely to let fear of rejection stop you from pursuing your dreams.
When someone rejects you, how do you handle it? If you get angry at your loved ones or pout for a week, then it's time to fine tune your attitude. Use the rejection you receive to figure out what works for you and what doesn't. Consider it a form of constructive criticism rather than a rejection of you.
Give yourself credit for trying! Even if you do get turned down for that date, or that job, give yourself a pat on the back for trying. Success in general is never achieved without trying.
Once you have your fear of rejection under control there is of course no guarantee that you'll never experience rejection again. You will; it's part of life. The difference now is that you'll know how to cope with it.
It's interesting to note that in a lot of cases it is the fear of failure that causes us to not try something, not the fear of actually being rejected. Just thinking about how we'll feel if we audition for that play or approach that beautiful woman at the bar is enough to scare us silly. So we stay put and don't even try.
Anything worthwhile takes effort. Be it asking that good looking guy or gal out, taking up a new sport, losing weight or quitting smoking. If you're frozen with fear then you're letting fear get in the way of achieving your potential. Simply put, you're scaring yourself into doing nothing.
You're a competent adult; capable of taking care of yourself. Right? So why are you letting your emotions and your fear of failure in particular rule your life? You need to get control of your emotions; you need a good old fashioned pep talk.
Examine your fears to see it if they're based on what others think of you or what you think of yourself. If you're allowing others' view of you to control your actions, or rather your inaction, you're setting yourself up for failure. If your imagine of yourself is immune to what others think of you, you'll be far less likely to let fear of rejection stop you from pursuing your dreams.
When someone rejects you, how do you handle it? If you get angry at your loved ones or pout for a week, then it's time to fine tune your attitude. Use the rejection you receive to figure out what works for you and what doesn't. Consider it a form of constructive criticism rather than a rejection of you.
Give yourself credit for trying! Even if you do get turned down for that date, or that job, give yourself a pat on the back for trying. Success in general is never achieved without trying.
Once you have your fear of rejection under control there is of course no guarantee that you'll never experience rejection again. You will; it's part of life. The difference now is that you'll know how to cope with it.
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