Nothing beats sex for a true feeling of mind and body intimacy. And as wonderful as sex is, there's also something pretty special about kissing. It communicates not only passion but the emotion as well. For most it's an integral part of expressing their physical romance.
At least it is when your partner does it well. Since no one writes "great person, terrible kisser" on their internet dating profile, kissing ability is kind of a wait and see thing. Some of the best looking guys I've dated have been, to put it mildly, horrible kissers!
Fortunately, bad kissing is not that difficult to fix! It's likely that your sweetie has just never learned how to kiss properly. Thinking about dumping your sweetie because you don't like their lip-lock technique (or the lack thereof)? No need, just keep reading for some subtle improvement techniques.
What They're Doing Wrong
There are a couple mistakes that are most common with bad kissers. And by far the most noticeable and unpleasant of them is over-use of the tongue. Maybe because of movies they've watched or what their friends told them when they were kids, but some people think that French-kissing means two people doing battle with their tongues. And so when it comes time to smooch, they bring their weapon out full-force. But "let me stick my tongue down your throat" is just never going to be sexy.
Fixing It
If the person you're kissing is somebody you're not interested in going any further with, you may be doing them a favor by pointing out any problems with their technique. But if you like him or her, the best thing is to avoid mentioning it. Even if you try to talk about it gently, there's really no way to avoid embarrassing the heck out of your date. Fortunately, it's easy to help somebody improve their kissing technique by simply leading them-- you don't have to say a word.
The first thing you need to do is get them interested in the kiss itself. When it's clear they're into it, pull back a bit and make them slow down. Don't make them feel rejected, just slow the pace of the kiss to help you introduce some new fundamentals.
Get Luke to put away his light saber. If your kissing partner seems to really want to play tongue battle, you need to disengage. Change the focus to the lips and change the pace and style of the kiss.
Once you've more or less called a truce in the battle of the tongues, you can start to show your partner more kissing options and elements. Try alternating top and bottom lips, or sucking the bottom lip lightly. Use different parts of the mouth to kiss: lips, tongue, teeth. If there's any hope for him or her at all, your date will enjoy the new sensations of your kiss. Hopefully, seeing a little kissing creativity will light a bulb in your date's head, and he or she will start to experiment as well.
Once your partner is comfortable trying these new techniques let him or her take over. With time they'll discover the pleasure of varied kissing and their own creativity. And they won't even realize they had help!
At least it is when your partner does it well. Since no one writes "great person, terrible kisser" on their internet dating profile, kissing ability is kind of a wait and see thing. Some of the best looking guys I've dated have been, to put it mildly, horrible kissers!
Fortunately, bad kissing is not that difficult to fix! It's likely that your sweetie has just never learned how to kiss properly. Thinking about dumping your sweetie because you don't like their lip-lock technique (or the lack thereof)? No need, just keep reading for some subtle improvement techniques.
What They're Doing Wrong
There are a couple mistakes that are most common with bad kissers. And by far the most noticeable and unpleasant of them is over-use of the tongue. Maybe because of movies they've watched or what their friends told them when they were kids, but some people think that French-kissing means two people doing battle with their tongues. And so when it comes time to smooch, they bring their weapon out full-force. But "let me stick my tongue down your throat" is just never going to be sexy.
Fixing It
If the person you're kissing is somebody you're not interested in going any further with, you may be doing them a favor by pointing out any problems with their technique. But if you like him or her, the best thing is to avoid mentioning it. Even if you try to talk about it gently, there's really no way to avoid embarrassing the heck out of your date. Fortunately, it's easy to help somebody improve their kissing technique by simply leading them-- you don't have to say a word.
The first thing you need to do is get them interested in the kiss itself. When it's clear they're into it, pull back a bit and make them slow down. Don't make them feel rejected, just slow the pace of the kiss to help you introduce some new fundamentals.
Get Luke to put away his light saber. If your kissing partner seems to really want to play tongue battle, you need to disengage. Change the focus to the lips and change the pace and style of the kiss.
Once you've more or less called a truce in the battle of the tongues, you can start to show your partner more kissing options and elements. Try alternating top and bottom lips, or sucking the bottom lip lightly. Use different parts of the mouth to kiss: lips, tongue, teeth. If there's any hope for him or her at all, your date will enjoy the new sensations of your kiss. Hopefully, seeing a little kissing creativity will light a bulb in your date's head, and he or she will start to experiment as well.
Once your partner is comfortable trying these new techniques let him or her take over. With time they'll discover the pleasure of varied kissing and their own creativity. And they won't even realize they had help!
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