If you're thinking about winning your ex back, you'll have to consider a few questions first. Why did you break up with her to start with? If you are to blame then carefully examine your actions that caused the breakup.
Was it due to your self centeredness? Honest self reflection like this can be very difficult. Look at the things that you said and did. Were they the results of a selfish individual?
If so, then what is different now? What makes you so sure that you're finished with being a selfish person? Is this desire to get back with your ex girlfriend the product of self centered thinking?
The first thing for you to do is to make sure that the relationship benefits both of you, otherwise it will fail. If it merely fills up an emptiness in your life then the relationship won't be good for either of you.
You will suffer the painful outcome of your self centered actions. If it doesn't benefit the two of you, it will ultimately fail.
If her selfish actions caused the breakup, then what makes you think that she will ever change? If she expresses true remorse and a desire to change her ways, then you've got a chance. If she has a long history of selfishness that is destructive to your relationship, then there is no point to staying together as a couple.
If you really believe that she has changed her selfish ways, then go ahead and try to get her back. She needs to think about what is best for the relationship rather than focusing only on her own concerns.
In either case, you both must act in the best interests of the other person. Remember, the relationship is guaranteed to fail if either of you acts selfishly. If you honestly feel that both of you can do what's best for the relationship, then getting back with your ex is the right thing to do.
Was it due to your self centeredness? Honest self reflection like this can be very difficult. Look at the things that you said and did. Were they the results of a selfish individual?
If so, then what is different now? What makes you so sure that you're finished with being a selfish person? Is this desire to get back with your ex girlfriend the product of self centered thinking?
The first thing for you to do is to make sure that the relationship benefits both of you, otherwise it will fail. If it merely fills up an emptiness in your life then the relationship won't be good for either of you.
You will suffer the painful outcome of your self centered actions. If it doesn't benefit the two of you, it will ultimately fail.
If her selfish actions caused the breakup, then what makes you think that she will ever change? If she expresses true remorse and a desire to change her ways, then you've got a chance. If she has a long history of selfishness that is destructive to your relationship, then there is no point to staying together as a couple.
If you really believe that she has changed her selfish ways, then go ahead and try to get her back. She needs to think about what is best for the relationship rather than focusing only on her own concerns.
In either case, you both must act in the best interests of the other person. Remember, the relationship is guaranteed to fail if either of you acts selfishly. If you honestly feel that both of you can do what's best for the relationship, then getting back with your ex is the right thing to do.
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