"All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction."
- Marya Mannes
Pay attention close attention to what is being written here. On your next visit to a club, take the time to notice what the women youre interested in is wearing. Find something of particular interest that you can start a conversation around. Try using her shoes as a conversational item.
Now that you've noticed her shoes,take a moment to imagine yourself wearing them. What would you expect people to say to you, if you had on a particular pair of unique shoes? To become an excellent conversationalist, take the ability to see yourself from an outside perspective.
Try theses three tactics to to add some spice to your conversations.
1. Listen and Think Before You Talk
"I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen."
" Ernest Hemmingway
It may come as a shock, but women like to know that you are listening to them. You'd be surprised by how much you can learn about a person, just by taking the time to listen to them. The key to any seductive conversation is listening. A true social artist knows that what a person is saying is the most important quality.
- Words are very powerful. When you truly listen to someone, they convey secrets about themselves that an untrained social artist would miss. Each word reveals clues to what a person is feeling or thinking.
- When you do respond, do not say the first thing that comes to your mind. Take a moment to think about what youre going to say then respond.
- Don't voice your opinion without thinking about it first. Ask yourself, "Will my opinion help or hurt this conversation. What emotional states could my opinion trigger?"
2. Speak with Emotion
"Feelings! I don't go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!"
" Henry Rollins
Emotions are everything to seduction. Use your words wisely. The right words, when used correctly, open up a persons feelings. Being genuine and curious about what a person says opens up a world of possibilities.
- Think for a minute. "What makes this person emotional? How can I bring out a positive and seductive emotional state?"
- Be aware of what ideas, feelings, and actions make that person emotional. Edge through each emotion. Transform negative emotions into positive ones, while bringing out more positive emotions.
3. Complement her with poise and intent.
"The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves."
" Dame Edith Sitwell
Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has "amazing eyes" wont get you anywhere, because she's already been complimented on them thousands of times. You're just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and shell never forget you.
- Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.
- Stay away from complimenting anything that she is known for or is complimented on regularly.
- Flattery should be genuine. Do not make them sexual.
- Marya Mannes
Pay attention close attention to what is being written here. On your next visit to a club, take the time to notice what the women youre interested in is wearing. Find something of particular interest that you can start a conversation around. Try using her shoes as a conversational item.
Now that you've noticed her shoes,take a moment to imagine yourself wearing them. What would you expect people to say to you, if you had on a particular pair of unique shoes? To become an excellent conversationalist, take the ability to see yourself from an outside perspective.
Try theses three tactics to to add some spice to your conversations.
1. Listen and Think Before You Talk
"I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen."
" Ernest Hemmingway
It may come as a shock, but women like to know that you are listening to them. You'd be surprised by how much you can learn about a person, just by taking the time to listen to them. The key to any seductive conversation is listening. A true social artist knows that what a person is saying is the most important quality.
- Words are very powerful. When you truly listen to someone, they convey secrets about themselves that an untrained social artist would miss. Each word reveals clues to what a person is feeling or thinking.
- When you do respond, do not say the first thing that comes to your mind. Take a moment to think about what youre going to say then respond.
- Don't voice your opinion without thinking about it first. Ask yourself, "Will my opinion help or hurt this conversation. What emotional states could my opinion trigger?"
2. Speak with Emotion
"Feelings! I don't go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!"
" Henry Rollins
Emotions are everything to seduction. Use your words wisely. The right words, when used correctly, open up a persons feelings. Being genuine and curious about what a person says opens up a world of possibilities.
- Think for a minute. "What makes this person emotional? How can I bring out a positive and seductive emotional state?"
- Be aware of what ideas, feelings, and actions make that person emotional. Edge through each emotion. Transform negative emotions into positive ones, while bringing out more positive emotions.
3. Complement her with poise and intent.
"The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves."
" Dame Edith Sitwell
Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has "amazing eyes" wont get you anywhere, because she's already been complimented on them thousands of times. You're just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and shell never forget you.
- Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.
- Stay away from complimenting anything that she is known for or is complimented on regularly.
- Flattery should be genuine. Do not make them sexual.
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